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Self Esteem – Understanding & Fixing Low Self-Esteem

Self Esteem – Understanding & Fixing Low Self-Esteem

Self Esteem – The inner workings of self esteem, the root causes of low self-esteem, and how you can improve your esteem today.

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Video Summary:
Self-esteem is pivotal to determining success in life and relationships. Those suffering from low self-esteem tend to struggle more to find success and happiness in their endeavors. They may see themselves as victims, and are more often victimized, emotionally and / or physically. They may abuse themselves via self-destructive behavior or negative addictions. They often suffer from dysfunctional relationships. Low self-esteem can be displayed by feeling unable to control or correct circumstances in one’s own life. Another common symptom is not valuing oneself, feeling unworthy or unlovable.

What are the elements of self-esteem? How are those elements related to the overlapping concepts of self-efficacy and self-respect? What causes low self-esteem and how does one’s self-image contribute to it?

For those who suffer from low self-esteem, improving it is crucial to feeling empowered in virtually any aspect of their lives. The first step is typically to identify what triggered these internalized feelings, then proceed to awareness and understanding. Stomping out the irrational, limiting beliefs makes way for more logical ones. Low self-esteem need not be permanent. Correcting it can be an arduous process, but well worth the effort.

48 Comments

  1. 11219tt on February 7, 2019 at 5:36 pm

    I’ve been using Porn and isolation to cope with my low self-esteem. No friends, struggling at work, feeling lonely, on and on and on. Is it normal to use external things addictively to cope with this?

  2. Fatah Osman on February 7, 2019 at 5:37 pm

    You can’t fix my self.

  3. Private Girl on February 7, 2019 at 5:38 pm

    I forever, totally believe I have great values, and morals. However, I, also, forever, totally, don’t believe, that I’m a saint, heroine, that I’m just so much more important than anyone, or everyone else in this world, or that I have so much more greater, and better values, and morals, than everyone else, in this world. My family, and I, also, forever, truly, don’t believe we’re, even remotely, or in any ways, at all, whatsoever, better, than any other families, in this world, either. No way, at all, and not ever so, at all, from any, of us. No way. Uh-uh. No way.

  4. 1965Vintage on February 7, 2019 at 5:39 pm

    So, I guess I need to go back and find those people who mistreated me in grade school and confront them? Kick their ass?
    Thanks for the advice!!!

  5. Day dreamer on February 7, 2019 at 5:40 pm

    Can someone improve himself if he is too much worst from every angle….??? Plzzz give me your opinions

  6. BodyKnight on February 7, 2019 at 5:41 pm

    Good luck fixing the temperature bashing on the thermometer.

  7. 11219tt on February 7, 2019 at 5:41 pm

    I’m sorry…. but this is once again another video where the person talks about the problem and glosses over the solution. A 20 minute video telling me what I already know about Myself… When the fuck is somebody going to tell me how to fix my problem! I’m fucking dying here… I need an answer… Not some happy ass talk about how shitty my life is and how awesome it will be once I learn to deal with the problem… But with no answer on how to deal with it… Fuck off!

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  9. Emiliano Gómez Huacuja on February 7, 2019 at 5:47 pm

    I have a low self esteem because of my acne and don’t know when is it gonna stop 🙁

  10. Queen Fanfic on February 7, 2019 at 5:48 pm

    I am a girl who struggles with horrible low self esteem. It is so low that I can’t even talk to people without feeling their probably making fun of me in their minds.

    I often feel depressed sometimes and there are times where I just want to die or disappear. These are feelings I can’t seem to make go away. No matter how hard my parents or family say otherwise.

  11. Mohamad Namdari on February 7, 2019 at 5:49 pm

    amaaaaaazing 🙂

  12. Yvonne Sishuwa on February 7, 2019 at 5:51 pm

    Took me 28yrs and a visit to the therapist to see that I have low self esteem and it is the reason I have a string of failed relationships

  13. Tom James on February 7, 2019 at 5:52 pm

    My problem is that I have problems that every normal person has to overcome, but I constantly beat myself up over them and feel like shit about myself. This prevents me from fixing my problems and now I’m in an endless cycle.

  14. NICOLE HJELTE on February 7, 2019 at 5:54 pm

    I think you are wrong about one thing… feeling Worthy is not the same thing as self respect. The reason why I say that is I have a high degree of self-respect but I still suffer from feeling unworthy of love (relationships to others) nd happiness (material things).

  15. Vaisakh E on February 7, 2019 at 5:57 pm

    Does anyone know the book to read regarding "how to improve self esteem"

    My childhood was terrible… Full of negative environment and that lead me to a low self-esteem person… Everyday iam crying to overcome this… Please do help me to overcome this situation… Please

  16. Marius Leaf on February 7, 2019 at 5:58 pm

    nice video, but you just defined what is self esteem but did not give any advice what to do to improve it, I guess I have to buy a book…..

  17. XSlash TV on February 7, 2019 at 5:58 pm

    I’ve always covered up my low self esteem with looking confident and happy, but in the inside I’m scared and sad.

  18. jane morba on February 7, 2019 at 6:00 pm

    It’s extremely truthful no matter where I land it’s so positive to create a journal and connection to our value in self esteem, Uplevel with inner care is the game.

  19. 1965Vintage on February 7, 2019 at 6:03 pm

    You are saying that the people who mistreated me as a child need to be dealt with! Done!

  20. WhiteFire 121 on February 7, 2019 at 6:07 pm

    I knew I was a failiure when I was born and here I am know Waiting for an exam that I’ll fail at…

  21. Joyce A on February 7, 2019 at 6:09 pm

    It’s a boy.

  22. Joyce A on February 7, 2019 at 6:11 pm

    Low efficacy and low self-esteem.

  23. Angelica Gonzales on February 7, 2019 at 6:13 pm

    new challenging drinking game every time he says "maybe you feel" drink.

  24. EngineFuel on February 7, 2019 at 6:14 pm

    Hi. Thank you for posting this video on self esteem. In a Respectful and manly way…*deep hugs*. I really needed to hear the message of this video. I’m on a mission to explore the possibility of my existence. Meaning, I know I have more to offer than what I’m currently offering myself and the world. I believe examining my self esteem and making correct associations will forward my goals. Thank You.

  25. GlenR I on February 7, 2019 at 6:14 pm

    I sometimes pretend to have low self esteem because I don’t want to be rude. It’s really weird. Does anyone else have that or a similar problem?

  26. oof on February 7, 2019 at 6:15 pm

    Some days I will sit in front of a mirror for 10-15 minutes just staring at myself saying rude things about myself in my head. Please do not do this.It isn’t good for anybody’s health..

  27. MakingYouAware.com on February 7, 2019 at 6:16 pm
  28. Calvon Bowden on February 7, 2019 at 6:16 pm

    Thanks

  29. Fatah Osman on February 7, 2019 at 6:16 pm

    Fix your self man!

  30. Rusty Sarkela on February 7, 2019 at 6:17 pm

    I just started watching this channel, but i gotta say i read nathaniel brandons 6 pillars of self esteem about a year ago now. It was an absolute life changer. 10/10 reccomend.

  31. Skeat on February 7, 2019 at 6:18 pm

    my self-esteem is so low that I cried when I was congratulated on my birthday at work. and not from happiness, but from panic. I felt terribly undeserving of it and just wanted to hit myself. immediately went home and drank cocoa for a long time. I’m hopeless.

  32. Henryk Musial on February 7, 2019 at 6:19 pm

    Liberals need to watch this video

  33. Joyce A on February 7, 2019 at 6:19 pm

    Getin g pregnant when not ready.

  34. clothsoverbros34 on February 7, 2019 at 6:20 pm

    Wow this guys full of shit..I watched other videos too..holy crap he actually f@@ked up my thinking more..do not watch these is you actually have real issues…no wonder other youtubers have more followers.. I will block and never watch your crap again…

  35. GEBS TV 9ja on February 7, 2019 at 6:21 pm

    Thank you, this really lifted my spirit

  36. bull moose on February 7, 2019 at 6:21 pm

    If you got a 4 year teaching degree and it doesn’t work out, you are at the same s*it job you had when you were 16. You’ve got a nice house but will never have anything else. As a matter of fact, hide your information on Facebook, because girls will come to see you and you won’t even be able to acknowledge them. "My hands are tied." I will be alone forever. I thought about shooting myself when I was 16 because my life was over. Little did I know I was right.

  37. hunter s on February 7, 2019 at 6:22 pm

    Well I feel like I have no fucking clue who I am anymore. I don’t know got to be “real” anymore. I try to please people too much, I’m worried about what people think all the fucking time, and I’m a grown ass man. I have no self confidence anymore, and I’ve grown up my entire life with people thinking I have so much of it, when I don’t. I feel like I’ve wasted the last 4 years of my life making stupid decisions that I will never be able to recover from. Shit I did when I was on drugs, or shit I did just because I wasn’t living my life the way I was supposed to. I wish I had gone to college instead of fucking my life off. And now I’m here almost 24 years old and literally feel like my life will never get any better. I have 0 friends, all the friends I did have or grew up with have basically forgotten about me, I’ve never even been to a friends wedding, the only thing I’ve been to is a funeral lol. I just have so much guilt and hate inside of me, i still have so many demons that I just can’t shake, and I’m so tired of living this way

  38. salmonjawn on February 7, 2019 at 6:22 pm

    But in his later videos he says that the key to being happy is LOSING the self. Because the sense of self is just an illusion. So now I’m so confused because if the sense of SELF is just an illusion, then why would you even try to acknowledge something that doesn’t exist?

  39. Haight Ashbury on February 7, 2019 at 6:22 pm

    It’s Pennywise the dancing clown! Run!

  40. CJ on February 7, 2019 at 6:25 pm

    You’re a fucking badass Leo. Thanks for your vids.

  41. kitten30 on February 7, 2019 at 6:26 pm

    Thank you so much. No one has ever structered and described self esteem so well and no one has ever opened my eyes like this. Now I know where I’m going wrong and I have a scheme to start working on my problems. You’re much better than any pscychologist I’ve gone to and any video I’ve seen. Never stop your videos, please, you have a special gift.

  42. Private Girl on February 7, 2019 at 6:27 pm

    I forever, totally love myself, well-healthily, self-confidently enough, but I, also, forever, love thinking of, and positively, and warmly encouraging all other people, male, or female, in this world’s totally loving themselves, too. Thus, please, please, dear God, and Jesus, also, forever, totally keep all other people, in this world, safe, happy, healthy, warm, rightly, vitally, necessarily, self-helpfully, and totally well-deservedly, positively, and totally inwardly, and outwardly self-confident.

  43. umesh bansal on February 7, 2019 at 6:27 pm

    Superb video

  44. Kuzey Demir on February 7, 2019 at 6:29 pm

    When I feel secure it decreases over time until im insecure anyone know why?

  45. Akatash on February 7, 2019 at 6:30 pm

    How to fix low self-esteem? watch this video every morning 😀

  46. Dan Murillo on February 7, 2019 at 6:30 pm

    1:20

  47. Ashley Elizabeth on February 7, 2019 at 6:33 pm

    Ive always had low self esteem. i wonder why if it had to do with my upbringing.. its very depressing and annoying and holds you back..I’m definitely way to low on these scales..is it too late I’m 28 yrs old

  48. Joyce A on February 7, 2019 at 6:34 pm

    Joyce Adegboyega is a doormat

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